C & I met 12 years ago, but our lives were in very different places. As the years went by the paths that each of us walked in life changed (as life does for so many). He was married when we met, and he and his wife were expecting their first born. As the years past his family grew and went through some devastating heart breaks. His marriage survived the first storm and it appear to make it through the second, however he eventually found out the truth, and although he tried to mend their marriage, it just wasn't meant to be. I was in a long term relationship which ended. I fell in love again and devoted myself to that relationship as well, which was not meant to be. It was November 2010, when our paths crossed again. He was so surprised to learn that I was single. I could not believe how handsome he was, I did not remember him looking so attractive (I guess one does not look at a married man in that way anyhow). It took some time for us to reconnect, we would text and call one another from time to time, however it was not until late January 2011 that we met for a night out with one another.
I laid it all out on the line from day 1. I let him know that marriage and a family were my plans for life, and if those were not something he would ever consider again, then we needed to part ways early on, being in my mid 30's, I wasn't going through another 7 year relationship. He kept me around and wanted to make all of my dreams come true.
He sees things in me, that I just don't understand. He loves me in a way that no man has ever loved me before. He is so kind and good to me, I often feel as if I do not do enough to show him my love and thanks... but he feels the same way towards me.
My dear sweet man surprised... no SHOCKED me on Christmas Eve. Surrounded by his fun and loving family. My prince got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife.
I spent the next week (my holiday from school) searching Pinterest for what I wanted our wedding to look like. I knew from the start, it needed to be just like us, FUN, BEAUTIFUL, SIMPLY ELEGANT, and most all SMART! In other words, I wanted a celebration of our marriage that did not break the bank. This is after all only a five hour affair. Why on earth should it cost so bloody much! By the 3rd weekend in January I had a few ideas and was set to go for my first attempt at a dress. I brought along my bestie, mom sissies and a niece. We went to David's Bridal (the chain of all chain stores for wedding gowns) on a weekend afternoon. They were so busy, and I tried on at least 40 dresses (or so it seemed). It was all too overwhelming. I actually was not looking forward to buying a dress. I had no idea when we would get married and the place I seemed to love the most, was not winning over my family. Although they only wanted the best for me and whatever I wanted was going to be perfect.
Life's path took another turn for my prince. I couldn't see planning out this wedding with what we were now facing. I knew I loved him and he me, and again was made aware of the fact that it is our marriage that really matters. I wanted the wedding, and it was going to happen, but why drag out the process when all I really wanted it to be married. So on February 1st, I asked him if we could have our wedding on my next school vacation. Saturday February 23rd seemed like the perfect date. He agreed.
The next day I started the actual planning for what would be Our Wedding, which would occur in only 3 weeks.
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